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Sometimes it’s difficult to know if a child is merely going through a “normal” phase or stage of development or if there is something more serious going on.  You may have maintained a “wait and see” attitude up until now, hoping that your child will “grow out of it”. You may have well-meaning family and friends who tell you that you’re over-reacting. Your child’s teacher or pediatrician may say that you have no reason to be concerned. But your gut is telling you otherwise and it’s important to trust your gut. Remember: the sooner you seek guidance from a professional, the sooner your child–and you–can be helped to bring about positive and lasting change.  My blog is a good place to start.

Over the next few weeks, look for musings on a variety of topics related to parenting and the parent/child relationship. Below is a sampling of future articles.

  1. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should: How overindulging your children can be bad for their mental health
  2. Bookends: The importance of creating and maintaining structure, rituals and consistency in your child’s day
  3. “Back Off!” : Reducing dependency and building self-efficacy and resiliency in our children
  4. “I hate you! You are the worst mommy ever!”: What your child’s words and behavior are telling you and how to use narration to calm the storm and improve your relationship
  5. “Why does my child behave perfectly everywhere else but home?”  Dealing with a challenging child
  6. The perfect storm: Three factors that influence the nature of the child/parent system and what you can do to improve your relationship with your child
  7. “Because I said so”: Your parenting style and how it may affect your child’s development
  8. “We’re a mismatch”: Temperament and its role in parent/child conflicts
  9. Passing on perfection: Why being a “good enough” parent is better than perfect
  10. Quit blaming your child and take a look in the mirror: Five things you might be doing to reinforce your child’s “bad” behavior

I hope you’ll visit often. Please feel free to reply, subscribe and pass on articles to your friends and family. If you have any suggestions for future topics, please let me know.

Note: Dr. Gondek is a practicing clinical and educational psychologist in Westlake, California. She provides psycho-educational testing, counseling, behavior intervention and parenting support services for those in Ventura County and the greater Los Angeles area.  To accommodate the busy schedules of children and their families, she offers weekend appointments.  For more information, visit her website at http://www.drmelissagondek.com